Love : Accept What Is

Somebody asked me what loving and not being in love was?  What it meant to love and be love?

When we think about love, we think about romance, someone loving us as much as we love them.

Is loving being like a saint and giving love to everyone?  No matter who or what they are?  Even if they drive us insane?


What is love?  Is love this grand magical feeling, that changes our being?  That wonderfully transforms us into calm, collected and truthful people?  In a way it does, when we love another, then we revert back to what we are.  Or we choose to be loving to only the people we like, and in that loving, we expect them to love us in the same intensity or more.  A love that has a price, is this love? It sounds very selfish - I'll love you when you love me.  Or i'll help you but you owe me for this later.  It doesn't sound like love to me.


Being love is accepting, accepting everyone and everything for what they are.  I don't mean love a killer and help him with a crime, not like that.  Accept that person as a killer and do what is needed, if the person is about to kill you, accept the situation - run or kill him first.  And accept the situation that you are in, that is acceptance.  And love is that, give and accept.  Most times we get stuck with asking why are we in situations that we don't like?  We start the pity party, or the guilt trip, or the anger towards others and ourselves.  Wouldn't it just be easier to accept it and free your mind up with how to deal with the present situation?  Seems more practical and dare I say it - smart.


Accept where you are in life, accept the situation that you find yourself in, accept how things unfold, accept and analyze it.  We often get stuck with not wanting where we are in the junction of life, and our minds throw a hissy fit.  It starts vomiting thoughts like, this shouldn't happen, I don't like this, it shouldn't be this way, why didn't they listen to me etc.  Now a seeker would stop and keep his mouth shut, lest unkind words fly out of his mouth, the more advanced seeker would watch the thoughts and let them leave on their own.  So stop, get your bearings and focus on what's really happening, most of the time the situations we're in are easy, the mind just likes complicating things.


And instead of sweeping all the feelings under the rug, examine them, understand them and don't be afraid to look deeper.  Understanding yourself better is a great way to go into love.  You'll find deep seated conditioning there, all pertaining to survival.  The next time it arises, you start understanding it and accepting the reaction, this is the way things are.   I'm not saying that when you feel the urge to throw your coffee at your office mate, that you do it, acknowledge the feeling, accept it and see if it is appropriate, discriminate the thoughts, use the higher mind to process actions, if they are needed or not.

True love does not need two to tango.  True love tangos with totality.

No truer words have been said!  I too suffered with looking for love everywhere instead of within me, that was my pattern, always looking for something outside to make me happy, I thought I was just a hopeless romantic.  But upon closer inspection, it was deep rooted feelings of wanting something constant, wanting to fit in, feeling that there has to be something more than this, that realization started my seeking.

We always think about love as something else, romantic, bounded and give and take.  I think love is simply just acceptance.

Let me leave you with this wonderful quote by the great Rumi.